A female friend once told me that the girl was mean, selfish, and immature, but then a couple years later, a male friend told me the girl was sweet, friendly, and pure. I never really talked to her personally, so I couldn't judge what she really was, and I had no idea why friends were talking about this particular girl in front of me. Gossips really stirred up my curiosity, and I even did that analysis about this girl in my mind. And interestingly, I am even writing this on my blog. Ha!
First, two complete different reviews of a person may come from the two different attitudes that the person displays in different conditions. Maybe my female friend saw the immature side of her, and my male friend saw the sweet side because of the way she alters her personalities. There is always something going on between two competitive girls, so who knows if my female friend and the girl hate each other; and you know there could be some sparks between a guy and a girl too, the different kind of sparks.
Second, the girl may intend to lie about her true personality. Who knows whether she is really immature, or she is really sweet. If a person wants to hide about a fact, anything can be done to cover it up. Of course truth can't be hidden forever, but who will actually detect like a FBI agent to uncover the whole thing? The girl does not murder, and nobody can judge her to jail for anything.
Third, people who judge sometimes have their perceptions mixed up with their personal feelings. The girl could be somewhere between immature and pure, but because my female friend dislikes her so much that she thinks the girl is more immature than pure, and my male friend likes her so much that he thinks the girl is more like a sweet person than a mean chick. First impressions do affect what people see in others.
Last, I think I am over-thinking about this thing. Analyzing someone I don't know at 2 AM seems wasting of time. Oh well, maybe I need some distractions from my own emotions.
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